An Update

An update as i begin to get my day going.

Saturday night Master stated i could use a night out after being His caregiver for a full week. i went to the local bar that i've spoken about on here before, The 501, to support slave ai's Master in their annual Mr. 501 Leather contest.

Disclaimer: What i'm about to say has been deemed quite offensive by others in the past, so if a possible uncensored opinion about how strongly i feel on this subject might offend Y/you, skip down to later in the post. Please do not send U/us feedback on what i'm about to say, it is my opinion, W/we don't live the lifestyle in the Old Guard, and quite frankly, i've been involved in the community long enough that my opinion will not change anytime soon.

So to put it out there without beating around the bush, i think Leather contests are nothing but drag shows or drag pageants where men put on attire that they don't wear in their day to day lives to become a persona that only exists on the weekends.

 i have the utmost respect for true leather people. A basic understanding of what a leather person is, from an Old Guard point of view, is someone who lives life while dressed in leather. There are people out there who truly live a leather lifestyle, who wear their leathers out to the mall, grocery store, or anywhere else in public.

Most men who participate in these contests are weekend warriors and there's nothing wrong with that. People have various reasons for entering these contests such as giving back to the community or other less respectable reasons like those that are ego driven.

Just as is the case with a drag pageant, there are several different areas where contestants compete for points to determine a winner. Some of these areas include an interview with the judge's panel, acting out a fantasy in front of the audience, jockstrap wear, formal leather attire, and so on and so forth.

In the event that only one contestant runs for a title, he must meet a minimum amount of points in order to win said title. The title isn't just handed to him because he's to only contestant.

In theory, the purpose of winning a title is to support the community and promote the organization whom decided you earned the title. In reality, what happens it the winner will hold a number of fundraisers through out the course of the year to build a travel fund to help him get to regionals, nationals, or even the international competitions. And this is where my opinion of the system is flawed.

i feel that the money raised by titleholders has more practical uses than flying someone across the country for the opportunity to earn himself the chance to carry out these duties on a high platform. The money that is raised comes from the local leather communities should stay in the local leather communities. So many GLBTQ organizations struggle with an inability to raise funds to their causes, including the subset of the leather community, and i feel very strongly that these monies should be invested back into the community and not used to give someone a vacation in Chicago, Washington, D.C. or Palm Springs.

Imagine a system where the titleholder competes for the opportunity to raise funds for an organization that he is passionate about, whether it be HIV/Aids research, prevention, outreach, education, or a GLBTQ food pantry, a gay pride event, a political organization fighting for the advancement of equality such as same-sex marriage, etc.

As a GLBTQ activist, it breaks my heart to see all this money around the world that is being raised so hundreds of men can compete potentially at an international level. To back up my claim as a GLBTQ activist, i have personally been involved in the planning an execution of fifteen different pride events up and down the East Coast, i've volunteered for leather contests, circuit parties, film festivals, youth advocacy groups, and even an organization who cares for displaced GLBTQ youth.

From a historical standpoint, back when same-sex marriage became THE issue back in 2003, the religious right continually kicked our asses because they were able to organize and raise funds to block civil unions. Back in 2003, a time when i was very much involved in GLBTQ activism, we as a community didn't have a centralized unified vision for our future that we have today.

That's where i'm coming from on the subject of leather contests and why i don't support them.

i'll step down off my soapbox now.

On Sunday, Master and i had a veg day. W/we sat around for the better part of the afternoon and watched television. Nothing too exciting.

Mondays and Thursdays are my usual allotted "free time" as Master has another commitment on both of these days. Because of His recent surgery, He is currently unable to physically perform the duties required of this commitment so i helped Him out of His work mule in terms of the physical workload.

Yesterday Master returned to work full time and i am starting to get back into my domestic routine.

i've accepted a role within the Indy Pride organization that will consume every Tuesday night until late June.

Amen

Losing My Routine

i've received a few comments offline that i should be blogging more and Y/you're right!

i've been out of my normal day to day routine for much of the past week with Master being home and assisting with His recovery efforts.

One of the things that He did for me this week was download a game that i use to play religiously prior to moving to Indiana, Roller Coaster Tycoon 2. For the past few days, when i've been allowed evening computer time, i've been playing my computer game.

Seems Master has finally found a way to shut me up when He's home... Allow His slave to play it's computer game and the slave will go hours on end without saying a word!

Prior to yesterday, W/we really fell out of O/our routine because of Master's surgery last week. W/we spent the week dealing with a crippling blizzard where the lovely City of Indianapolis did not plow the roads making post storm road conditions quite hazardous.

W/we spent the week in front of the TV.

When it comes to entertainment, Master and i share virtually no common interests. i am more of a comedy/raunchy kind of slave and He prefers science fiction and horror. Well, this week i introduced Master to "Cutthroat Kitchen" on Food Network and there is a now a show W/we can enjoy together!

During the past week, Master saw a different side of me. He was aware prior to my arrival of my naturally dominant personality. Outside of the bedroom, i tend to be more of a take charge type slave. However when it comes to the things W/we do behind closed doors i don't enjoy being the Dominant. i enjoy fucking another guy in the ass, preferably bareback, but i'll only do the BB thing if i'm in a committed monogamous relationship. That's where my Dominant traits end as far as sexual activities. i'm very passive in the bedroom and get off, both mentally and physically, on pleasing another Man.

With Master's return to work yesterday, i was able to start to get back into my routine. i completed a bunch of chores that needed to be done. When Master is home, He usually wants me at His feet on the floor. Though W/we haven't actually discussed it, i get the sense that Master feels when He is home that is O/our time together and i should have already had my chores completed during the day.

In other non-BDSM lifestyle news, i have had two pretty big developments arise this week. i've been offered a volunteer position within the local gay community, the broad gay community as opposed to the leather sub-community. i'll probably announce what that is when i become official on Tuesday night.

i also have a full-time job interview lined up for Tuesday as well.

W/we're back!!

i brought Master home yesterday in the middle of blizzard like conditions and W/we spent the day sleeping. 

Personally i had four friends/family enter the hospital prior to Master's hospitalization this weekend since December 2012, with three of the aforementioned four visits resulting in deaths. 

Master's procedure is usually considered to be outpatient surgery but since the surgery was so late in the day, they held Him overnight for observation. 

With all these hospitalizations, i kind of knew what to expect when Master got home, and as usual, my sensitivity kicked in and Master unintentionally hurt my feelings. 

W/we'd talk about those events later in the day and W/we were able to effectively communicate O/our concerns to each other.

Master is doing very well today, feeling better, with the exception of the lack of range of mobility in the area where He was operated on. 

Get Well Master

When Master woke up this morning He had no idea how this day would unfold.

He'd have surgery early this evening and i'm very happy to report that His surgery was successful and He should be released tomorrow.

In the meantime, i may not be posting as much this week, depends on His wants and needs. i will be His caregiver until He's back up on His feet.

Stick around, W/we'll be back to O/our regular blogging soon.

Get Well Soon Master, and i love You very much.

slave chance

Lesson Learned

Surprising Master with a side of bacon puts Him in a VERY good mood in the morning...

Happy New Year from A Master and His slave

To kick off the start of a new year, Master and i had a dinner date at a gay owned and operated restaurant called Forty-Five, located in the heart of Indy's small gayborhood.

Forty-Five serves Asian food and offers sushi as well.

W/we shared to sushi rolls, a typical California roll as well as a roll that they call Godzilla. The Godzilla is a fully cooked roll with crab meat, cream cheese, and avocado. They then bake crab meat on top of the the entire roll, which was freakin' awesome.

Master had a chicken satay dish that was excellent and i had a blue buffalo salad. my salad was essentially a grilled chicken salad where the chicken was glazed in buffalo sauce with asian seasonings and with blue cheese. W/we both O/our meals were excellent.

For dessert, Forty-Five offers a Bacon Brownie Ala Mode and it was awesome! i can't say i've ever heard of anyone putting bacon in a brownie, but OMFG it was awesome!

After leaving the restaurant we headed to the Five to ring in the New Year. W/we had a few drinks and spent the night chatting with slave ai.

A stop at White Castle on the way home was a perfect way to end a great night.